Missouri-Flyer
1595 posts
Apr 30, 2008
2:49 AM
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Hello Everyone,
I haven't been on here in what seems like an eternity. I am in the middle of some family issues, and havent had much access to a computer.
I want to tell everyone on this board that if I have ever offended anyone, or been overboard on any of my past posts, that I am truly sorry!
Life has taken a curvy road the past 3 weeks, and i now look back and see that i havent been the best of a person that i could have and should have been, and for that i am sorry.
To those that are in my region, i am sorry to say that i wont be flying in the W/C this year. I have not been able to fly my birds in 3 weeks due to not living at my house. My daughters have been taking care of them for me. If someone could please pass on the word to Ferrill, it would really help me out.
At this point in my life, i am not sure where or when this curvy road will end, but i hope that eventually it straightens out somewhere!
I want to say thank you to all of you that have stood by me in this hobby, and have helped me out over the past several years. I hope to be able to return to the hobby and comps in the future. At this time, life has changed so much.
Thank you Tony for letting me be a part of this great site. It has been a great learning experience. I will try and pop in now and then..Please take care of yourselfs, and PLEASE, treat your family like gold, because i have learned through my situation, that they are worth more than anything!
With love, Jerry Ledford
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Jerry
Home of "Whispering Wings Loft"
Last Edited by on Apr 30, 2008 2:49 AM
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Tony Chavarria
Site Publisher
2406 posts
Apr 30, 2008
2:53 AM
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Jerry, well said! I have been there too! My thoughts and prayers will be for you and your family. If you ever want to get together and have beer and pass the time, just give me a call. Blessings Brother!
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FLY ON! Tony Chavarria
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DeepSpinLofts
672 posts
Apr 30, 2008
3:01 AM
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Good morning Jerry....
Glad to see you back dude!
Marcus
Deep Spin Lofts
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pat66
144 posts
Apr 30, 2008
3:31 AM
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JERRY.
Sorry to hear about your road,I have been down the curvy road before and if I learned one thing from it ,it was to keep looking up,I do mean UP, because you do not know what he has in store for you around that next curve!
GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS!
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Pat
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George R.
571 posts
Apr 30, 2008
6:02 AM
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Jerry
I will keep you and you family in our prayers, take care and God bless .
George
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Santandercol
2396 posts
Apr 30, 2008
7:08 AM
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Jerry,
If it looks like you're not gonna get back in,make peace,give her what she wants and move on.Life is short man and we have to make the best of it.I'm on my 3rd mrs now and it is working,,,lucky.Can't take anything for granted tho,,,the -hit can hit the fan at any moment if one isn't careful.Stay cool bud.
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Kel.
Rum-30 Lofts
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Electric-man
1513 posts
Apr 30, 2008
8:22 AM
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You hang in there Jerry! A lot of us have seen that curvy road! You offered for me once, now the favor turns around, you need a place to get away for a couple days, you just holler!
You got friends here! Lean on us if you need to, well be there for you!
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Val
"Site Moderator"
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bob
71 posts
Apr 30, 2008
9:01 AM
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Hi Jerry i have been there & totally understand how this can effect one. I found that you can not put a price on happyness & in my case started life over in my 50s & now at 72 i have a son 15 & a daughter i9 & i am very happy as we hunt , fish train dogs & fly my rollers. sincerely Bob in Ontario.
Jerry i am posting my phone # & email if you would ever like to talk feel free Bob Caesar in Ontario
email rcaesar@wightman.ca Phone# 1-519-327-8214
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nicksiders
2754 posts
Apr 30, 2008
9:13 AM
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One day at a time, Jerry. Hang in there, bud
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gotspin7
1306 posts
Apr 30, 2008
11:00 AM
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Jerry, I will let Ferrell know and I will keep you and your family in my prayers! One day at time my friend!
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Sal Ortiz
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luis
878 posts
Apr 30, 2008
11:18 AM
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I'm sorry for what you're going through Jerry.The trick is to learn from our mistakes and not make them twice,then we become better people or better equiped to deal with lifes situations.If we don't learn we put others and ourselves through a lot of unnecessary pain.GOD bless.
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SAT Roller
111 posts
Apr 30, 2008
1:02 PM
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Jerry,
You never know what tomorrow brings. We about threw in the towel a little over 20 years ago, fortunately my wife and I worked through it, I never thought we would as it was a mess on both sides.
THANK GOD we are still together today and we are better today than before, she is now not only my wife, she is my best friend, my fishing partner, I am her helper & she's mine.
If you both want it to work it will take time and there will be ups & downs. There needs to be a cooling off period as well. Most folks just quit after they are separated and learn later on that folks are just human and make mistakes and maybe we should have forgiven each other and tried to work it out.
Best of luck to you and your family.
Richard
Last Edited by on Apr 30, 2008 1:04 PM
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sundance
610 posts
Apr 30, 2008
3:12 PM
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Jerry, that is a tough road. It sounds like many of us have been there. And we are all still here too. It will get tougher at times but keep your focus, whatever that may be.
For myself. it was my daughter. First and foremost above all else. I`m proud to say she is now 18 and in college and doing very well. She still comes to see me every other weekend even though she dont have to. She is my best friend.
Find your focus, be it your children , your wife, your family, and god. They will all help pull you through even if they dont know they are doing it. Its all about whats in your heart.
I wish you luck, as I know it gets hard, but with your loved ones and your friends, at home or right here, a couple years from now things will be better. Like the song said, " keep on keepin on"
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Butch @
Sundance Roller Lofts
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PR_rollers
999 posts
Apr 30, 2008
4:03 PM
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Jerry hope things turn out for the best for you.and it will
, If you put your trust in the Most Highest above,
Time is a great healer ,time heals all things.there's a time for everything and now its taking its place.think positive and you right about what you said ,your love ones are the most important ones,you never know if they be here tomorrow. we forget that and take them for granted.so i always show them they mean the world to me...Death is not the greatest tragedy in life is what dies within you ,,thats a tragic, keep your head up high.and walk through life with it that way even when its at these time is the most heavy...God Bless.. Peace...
P.S. Thanks for apologizing .takes a man to do that.
Ralph....
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Missouri-Flyer
1596 posts
Apr 30, 2008
6:55 PM
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As I sit here at a friends house, reading your posts, it brings tears to my eyes. I want to say thank you to all of you!..I know they say time heals all, but it is the day by day living without my family that is bringing me down to where I have never been..My wife and I have been together 20 years and 7 months..We were highschool sweethearts. She was 15 and I 17 when we met. We have been together ever since..My family is what I have always lived for, but do to actions on both sides, things got to where we are today..
I want to say that I love her with all of my heart. She is the reason I live day to day..We have 4 children..My son Jason is 19..A great son..3 daughters that are Breanna 17, Makayla 14, and Emily that is 11...
In any marriage, you learn to excpet things..Every time my wife would leave over the years she would say "honey, I am headed to Wal-Mart, and will be back in a bit"..Now that things are the way they are, I am missing out knowing anything about her life..That is hard to swallow!..
I have had my 11 year old for 2 days now..Her and I just got back from fishing..We had a great time..I try tofocus on them, but its the not knowing with my wife that keeps me up throughout the nights..
Again, I want to say thank you to you all..I have never felt this way in my 37 years of living..I just hope and pray that my fears dont come true, and that is that I loose her forever!.She is my world...
Thanks for listening to my problems..It means alot.
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Jerry
Home of "Whispering Wings Loft"
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RUDY..ZUPPPPP
1578 posts
Apr 30, 2008
7:07 PM
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Zupppppppppp Jerry..................
Call me anytime u wanna talk to somebody my friend....
breeding and flying hard..................
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RUDY PAYEN
PANCHO VILLA LOFT
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tapp
562 posts
Apr 30, 2008
7:20 PM
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Hi Jerry, Sorry to here this. Keep in touch with God. And me and my family will have your family in our prayers. I've been there before also. Call anytime time you just want to talk. We can can talk about anyting!! Your friend. Kim Tappenden 517-283-7043 cell 517-425-8686
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Tapp
Last Edited by on Apr 30, 2008 7:20 PM
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PR_rollers
1003 posts
Apr 30, 2008
7:22 PM
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Jerry I know what you mean ,but now you have to make God your world and live day to day for you and your kids. and everything else will fall in place. trust me I don't know you but i know life..If you show weakness you will lose everything if you show faith strength then you will attract everything good to you/think positive..walk positive,be positive...
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Ralph....
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Santandercol
2400 posts
Apr 30, 2008
9:22 PM
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Sorry Jerry,Things will get better for sure.Remember as low as you can get to feel down in the dumps,when you come back up again you will come that much higher.
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Kel.
Rum-30 Lofts
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SAT Roller
114 posts
May 01, 2008
7:03 AM
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Jerry,
I have no idea what stage you and your wife are at; however, it is obvious to me that you still feel very strongly towards her.
After things have cooled down a little when the oportunity presents itself let her know how you feel in word and actions. It is the little things that go away in a marriage that usually divide a marriage.
Continue with your positive actions even if the response you wanted was not what you wanted.
That spark needs to be re-iginited and some times it takes time. Of course it does not always work out.
Best advise I can give you is don't get involved anytime soon with anyone else if you feel it will never be like it was, just focus on your family if even for now it is only your children.
May God Bless you and your family.
Richard
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Missouri-Flyer
1598 posts
May 15, 2008
8:04 AM
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Just a quick update friends.
I was able to fly my birds for the first time in almost 4 weeks. With the daughters taking care of them, they are really out of shape..It was still a good feeling to see all 80 or so kitbirds out at once, doing their stuff. Things look better than they did a month ago, but not much. I hope to be into my own house in the next few weeks, then I can refocus my attention on my birds for the F/F hopefully..I have kicked around the idea of moving back to Texas, which is where I was born. I have family there still (brothers and sister). Not sure of that will happen due to my kids, but you never know...Take care everyone...Would like to see some Region 5 scores posted if possible...Thanks, your friend, Jerry
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Jerry
Home of "Whispering Wings Loft"
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Santandercol
2508 posts
May 15, 2008
8:18 AM
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Hey Jerry,
Good to hear from you,man.Take it slow,eh.Stay positive as life goes on.
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Kel.
Rum-30 Lofts
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J_Star
1583 posts
May 15, 2008
8:31 AM
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I hope thing will work out for you Jerry. 20 years is a long time. However, if you tell her what you feel and how you feel just like you told us, the curvy road will end very soon. Start with sending her a dozen of roses accompanied with a little note of seniority. The kids are better off with both parents at their age. It is important. Good luck and you might need to talk privately with Paul Fullerton since he has been there.
Jay
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Ballrollers
1235 posts
May 15, 2008
9:13 AM
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Jerry,
Hang in there, buddy....been wondering where you've been! I see you have had other things going on......been there...done that (several times)....got the scars to prove it.....there is definitely life on the other side....and good life, at that! Call or e-mail me if I can help in any way.....
Cliff
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spinnin jennys loft
13 posts
May 15, 2008
12:13 PM
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Hey Jerry, I got a 24.31. First year to score in the W/C! It was real windy! The judge said he had a lot more he wanted to give me but for a couple of out birds. Those birds Spike gave me at the last minute really helped out! Surprised him. Take care buddy and we'll get'm in the F/F! Woody
Last Edited by on May 15, 2008 12:14 PM
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Electric-man
1590 posts
May 15, 2008
12:32 PM
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After rethinking this, I better just post my score and leave it up to others wheather they want their's posted here!LOL
Hey Jerry, mine was ;
Val Reneau 7,6,6,9,5,5,5 1.1 1.0 47.3
Scored all my points in the first 7 or 8 minutes! 2 out birds killed me also and the judge mentioned a lot of twithing going on that hurt me!
Oh well, I had fun and now I have a base score to work up from! I hope!
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Val
"Site Moderator"
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gotspin7
1326 posts
May 15, 2008
12:55 PM
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Jerry, one of my kits hit 275 and the other 149. Take care!
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Sal Ortiz
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